Accepting Growth and Change

As I sit here preparing myself for a meeting at the immigration office this morning I have so many contradicting thoughts running through my head. We are having this meeting to get permission for Benson to travel alone to The States at the beginning of next month. He is attending a performing arts festival in Orlando.

When Benson first approached us with this idea I was very hesitant. For many reasons… He is my baby boy and has never traveled out of the country without us, he didn’t know really who all was going, and selfishly, I’m a little bit jealous that he gets to go to Universal Studios. 

The more we looked into it the more we realized that it would be a great opportunity. It is associated with Juilliard and he is very passionate about music. Playing and writing. 

We spoke to his band director, who is going with the group, and he really encouraged us to let Benson sign up. So here we are, giving our permission for our little boy to travel to Orlando by plane without us. The thoughts that are going through my head are things like “he’s still a baby.” “I’m so proud of him.” “He’s only 12!” “He’s getting to be so independent!” I’m truly all over the place. I’m so excited for him to get to do something like this. He very well may get homesick but I know in the end it will be a great experience.

I still can’t believe that he wanted to do this. If you would’ve asked me, or even him, two years ago I think we both would have laughed. It’s almost been two years since we decided to make this move. (March 2018) and we have all changed and grown a lot since then. I look back at the little shy boy that we brought here and now see him maturing and gaining more confidence every day. I attribute a lot of that to his band experience but also putting himself in a position to except a change and run with it. None of the kids wanted to move and he was the most resistant. I’m very proud of him and hope that we are making the right decision. Benson in front of Carnegie Hall

From Bensons Perspective

To commemorate us being in Costa Rica for 18 months I want to share a story that Benson wrote for a school assignment recently. They were supposed to share a story of something that happened in their life that really affected them. I really enjoyed hearing from his perspective. Although, it’s a little bit funny to see how concerned he was about the dog!

When I Moved to Costa Rica

By Benson Bland

Sometimes you have to move. It could be because your dad made you do it for his job. Or to a bigger house etc. My friends have had to do that and maybe yours too.

It was 6 in the morning. My entire family had slept at my house. You should’ve heard how loud my house was the night before. I couldn’t sleep that night because the next day I would move to Costa Rica.

I got out of bed in my house in Bartlett, Tennessee. I was extremely tired because I didn’t sleep that night. I looked at my watch, 5:59 am. Nobody was up despite the fact that we were moving that day. I waited thinking of my life to come until my cousins, grandparents, parents, aunt, or uncle got up (If my sisters got I would pretend I was asleep until someone else woke me up so they don’t annoy me). Once everybody got up (13 people including me in my medium-size house in the States), we got our luggage 17 bags and a dog went to Gibson’s Doughnuts in downtown Memphis where when I was little, I and my dad would go there every Saturday morning for some donuts. We all were very anxious because we all knew that soon we would have to say goodbye.

Once we all got the delicious donuts (I got maple bacon) we started heading towards the Memphis “International” Airport (It only goes barely to Canada or Mexico) the tears started coming. You might think I have no heart but I never cried. We unloaded all of our luggage and I got the dog (we faked him as an emotional support animal so he could be with us on the plane  (Don’t worry we drugged him). We left our big suitcases with the people who worked there so we didn’t have to put them as carry-ons. When we finished with that, we said our goodbyes to our big family.

My grandpa on my dad’s side doesn’t really like dogs but he actually said bye to my dog and petted him! Then my uncle on my mom’s side (Context: Brothers and sisters don’t like each other but they were fine with each other but this is very deep) was crying and he said he loved her.

When about a gallon of tears was shed we went to security and we got some weird looks from the officers when we came in with my dog but we got through perfectly fine. With all the people there, my dog was going nuts.

As we were walking up the stairs a HUGE American flag appeared. It was probably 50ft long and 20ft wide.                                                                                                                                      Once we got to the gate, we still had about an hour. So, we gave my dog some food and water. He is an Aussiedoodle. He has beautiful blue eyes and he has a white head. Underneath his mouth it is copper. His ears are greyish and his body is black and grey.

Once the people finally let us in we got on the plane. The foot room is super small and we couldn’t move around until the plane was in the air. We couldn’t go for another hour so we waited and waited. When the plane finally started we got our to get up once the plane took off.

We played a few games and listened to music. Suddenly my ears felt weird and my head started spinning and I realized we were landing. Once we landed we grabbed our carry-ons went to our next gate. Once we got there we left our stuff with my dad and went to get food. I got a hamburger and got my last Dr. Pepper. And we went back to the gate.’

We took our dog to the bathroom over and over and he never would. He had gone 4hrs and never gone (that we know of). After about four hours. of doing that and watching movies we finally managed to get on the plane.

Once we were on it was about 3 pm. We finally got on and the plane took off and it was good on the 5hr flight. About halfway through the ride, a guy was probably heading to the bathroom and passed out. I was watching something so I didn’t hear what was going on. My dad told me that he was the guy who pressed the flight attendant button.

Once the flight ended somehow the time ended up to ten (I’ve counted the hours and still don’t know what happened that made it so late.

We went through customs and after that, it was 12 am.

We got all our bags and I had the dog which is enough. And we headed to the taxi. Once we got home  Blue (my dog) and I went straight to the back yard and went he went to the bathroom.

When he went I felt like the happiest person alive because he is a small dog and going 12hrs and not going to the bathroom is VERY HARD. It felt like I was going to Disney World. I went outside to tell the good news. Everyone was really happy. Then, we all went to look at our long-awaited house.

Going to the bathroom,  it is a problem every living creature faces. It makes you miss movies and causes video game deaths. It can ruin road trips and can cause stinky disasters. My dog is very small and surprisingly could hold it for that long. We all glad he didn’t end up going on the plane because that would have been a disaster.

I’m really proud of Benson for being able to put all this in words. His teacher obviously asked for a lot of details and I think we will be glad to have all that looking back someday.

Showing Kindness

Yesterday, something happened that I have been dreading since we moved here… I got pulled over by the police. No, I wasn’t speeding or disobeying a traffic laws, but I was driving by a prison and they do routine stops. I have been fortunate up until now to not be stopped. The man had me roll my window down and started speaking Spanish, of course, because I live in a Spanish-speaking county…. sometimes I have to say that out loud to remind myself that I do know this fact.  I always assumed that I would turn to mush and forget how to speak if this happened but luckily I didn’t. I told him that I don’t speak a lot of Spanish so he started speaking to me in perfect English. I was shocked and grateful. He asked me for my license and fortunately I have a Costa Rica drivers license. I showed it to him and he very slowly walked all around my car, looked at all my stickers on the windshield (you have to have about a half a dozen different stickers on your windshield here to meet regulations) and then handed me my license back and with a smile told me to have a wonderful day.

I tell that story to say that I am much more appreciative when I’m shown kindness now. I could also tell stories of times that I have felt like I was walking around with no clothes on because everyone was staring at me or times that I really did turn to mush and couldn’t think of any words when I needed to speak to someone in Spanish because I felt very intimidated or “like i was sticking out like a sore thumb.” That actually happens a lot…. going to the grocery store, restaurants, the business office at school. Mostly places that only speak Spanish and it’s like a silent alarm goes off when I walk in the door. 

This experience living in another country has taught me many things but lately I’ve really been focusing on one… Showing kindness. I was brought up to be kind. My dad didn’t give me a lot of advice when I was growing up. One, because he was a very quiet man who didn’t say much but when he did say something we always listened. And two, because he showed us by example how to be. He always told us to be kind. And it wasn’t so much advice as a command. And what a simple command. If you are kind then others will see Jesus in you. 

There are so many times during the last year and a half that I have really been thankful for someone showing kindness. One of the first was at an office depot store right after we moved here. A woman heard me struggling at the desk to tell the lady what I needed done so she translated for me. Later she found me in the store to give me her phone number in case I needed her help again.  Turns out, she is the church secretary where we are attending now.  She did not have to show me scripture or invite me to church for me to see Jesus in her. ***On a sidenote, her number is still taped to my refrigerator. She wrote it on one of those little ‘take a number’ tickets that you get at a place when the line is really long.

I have many more stories like this but for now the police officer and the office depot lady can get my point across. I feel like now like my eyes are much more open to people who don’t always “fit.” I think of different times in my life where someone was visiting at Church or I saw someone confused in the grocery store. I will be much more quick to help these people. I think I’ve always let my “shyness” or just plain ignorance get in the way.  I’m also learning that you don’t have to speak the same language to communicate. There of been many times where I have seen kindness in strangers helping me find my way. 

17 Month Observations

Yesterday marked our 17th month here in Costa Rica. I try to at least update once a month and today I have two main points although they have nothing to do with each other and are super random. 

1. Driving in Costa Rica is insane!

So I’ve been driving here pretty much from day one and I thought it would get better by this point. NOPE! The day-to-day things have become pretty easy and I think it’s safe to say that I’m on auto pilot going to the grocery store and a few other places.

BUT going anywhere else, especially between 3:00-9:00pm can make a person say words that they normally don’t say. The traffic is terrible and people drive as if there are no laws. For example, I had taken the kids to the orthodontist one evening and we were headed back home and sitting at a red light, people were honking and yelling at me like crazy because I wasn’t going. The light was obviously red! **On a sidenote, if you are familiar at all with Costa Rica you know about the Pura Vida attitude. (If you are not familiar it is a saying that locals and tourists use here about the laid-back easy-going attitude.) Well, it is pura Vida until you get into a car here.

Another problem with traffic is we have several tolls that have about 6 to 10 lanes which then drop down to two lanes immediately after. You have to be very aggressive driver around here and that is so not me. Nathan, on the other hand turns Tico (Costa Rican) as soon as he’s in the car.

Parking here is also brought me to tears on several occasions. I think that people that are born here are born with a genetic ability to park and very tight spaces and find places to park that no one would ever have thought a car can go. Nathan recently took Blake Leigh to see paw patrol and when they came out of the show this is what the parking lot looked like.

I have avoided certain places and gone at strange times to stores because I knew that parking will be an issue. There will be a store that is super close but has no parking so I will specifically go out of my way to another one because I know I’ll be able to park. I know this sounds silly to many people but it is definitely a huge stressor for me. On that same orthodontist trip last week there are only four spots in front of the orthodontist so we’re always crossing our fingers on the way there for a parking spot. It is also in front of a very busy street right next to the national stadium of Costa Rica so it’s a very intense place. This time we found one but it was about the size of a small car. We ended up all having to get out of one door which was actually pretty comical. I have learned to try to laugh in these moments and be grateful that I didn’t hurt our car or another car in the process. 

I know people here who are able to avoid driving because they use Uber or they have personal drivers but I have too many places I have to go every day with three kids and dog to make that actually work for us. 

I am constantly in need of a massage because of all the tension in my neck and shoulders after being in the car. I recently got Nathan and I massages for his birthday and the lady could not believe how bad my neck and shoulders were. I blame this entirely on driving here!

2. There are times when I feel extremely homesick

Living in another country is kind of like a roller coaster. I’ve explained to friends and family before that I almost have to live minute by minute with my emotions. It has become more like hour to hour, which I guess is progress🙌🏽. Some weeks I will go on and be so grateful for this experience and other weeks, like this one, I wonder what in the world I’m doing.

I had to have some medical test this week on my shoulder and the language barrier makes a huge difference. Also, our insurance here is very different and complicated and I honestly don’t even understand it. I’m very thankful for Nathan’s assistant because she helps me with these matters. 

Anyway, I say all of that to say that I was sitting at the hospital waiting for my test not knowing where to go or who to pay or even understanding people who were trying to help me. That is hard. I say this a lot, but I feel like it’s important… We chose to do this and put ourselves in this position but I do want to be transparent with the realities of living in another country. Not understanding the language or the dialect can make you feel very hopeless and lost. Luckily, we have lots of people that are willing to help us and I’m very grateful for that. Saying that, I don’t always want to bother people with my every day issues and know that I need to figure them out for myself for personal growth and future problems.

I was sitting there waiting with tears in my eyes but then within a couple of hours I felt very blessed to know that people here are willing to help. Even though several of the techs didn’t speak English I was able to understand them and with hand motions we were able to figure out what I needed to do during the exam and tests. (For those who are interested it turns out I have a torn rotator cuff.)

Yesterday, I lost my debit card and that was one of those things that I had to rely on someone to help me. I tried to use my Google translator and talk to people around the area where I lost it but that was just a huge disaster. I’m so used to being able to figure things out on my own. I ended up calling Nathan’s assistant and she called the bank to stop the card. I can’t say enough how grateful I am for her.

Today, Nathan and I both have been a little homesick. We found out this week that ESPN game day was going to be in Memphis and there’s no place Nathan would rather be today than there but luckily, it was on here, and even in English! We were able to watch this morning before Nathan took Benson to flag football. We are also crossing our fingers that the game is on tonight to where we can see it. Days like this it’s nice to have a connection to home.

We are still feeling very fortunate to be here and I definitely don’t want to sound like poor pitiful me. Our children are still amazing us with how they have adapted and are excelling in this new environment. Benson (6th grade) has been chosen to play his trumpet with the high school band in a couple of weeks in a performance at the school. Sloane is out of her sling and splint and is back to swimming. She was recently part of a math team from the school that got to compete against other schools in the area. And Blake is really starting to love to read and write chapter books for us. They each have their challenges but your mind then that they would be going through some of the same things even if we were still in the states. As Nathan has been down to say… “Growing up is awkward” and we are all still growing up. 

Here are some pictures from lately. Today when I was feeling homesick I decided to take a long walk and saw some funny things on my walk and help brighten my mood. It is also hard to be homesick when you see such a beautiful creation around you.

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Checking In

It’s been a while since I’ve last updated so I thought it was time. Nothing earth shattering going on. But I just want to document this point of our life.

We have been in Costa Rica for 16 months. I know that sounds like a mom who insist on only giving her children’s ages in months, but just like in child raising, when you’re doing something completely different every day counts!

We have been back in the swing of things for about six weeks now with school starting. Nathan’s job is going well and the kids are in full swing of their afterschool activities. One of the things that I love here is that all of their extracurriculars are immediately after school so we are not running around at night to get to practices.

Benson is involved in cross country, art and tech, and trumpet, of course. Sloane is doing engineering, swimming, (although, she is out for a month with a broken arm, I’ll get to that later) Chess club, and cooking. Blake Leigh is doing STEAM, swimming, and basketball. I am still substituting at the kids school. I even taught Spanish class for a whole day.

I was at school last week teaching PE class when Sloane’s friends came and got me saying she had fallen off the slide. I was thinking it wasn’t that big of a deal because my kids are kind of clumsy but of course, I was wrong. Luckily, I was able to leave quickly and take her to the hospital. The doctor confirmed that her wrist was broken. She was very calm about the whole thing until then because she assumed it would be like last time where the doctor had to set the bone and put on a cast. Luckily this doctor recommended a splint instead of a cast. He said the cast will be useless in a few days after the swelling went down. She still has to wear the splint and sling 24/7 for 4 weeks but it’s still so much better than the cast.

Another cool thing that has happened since school started is that Sloane got to join band this year and she is doing percussion. She was really hoping that she would be able to do that. Just one more way that she and Benson can drive each other crazy in the house. That was one unfortunate thing with the arm breaking because now she has to do with one arm. Her band director has been very supportive and is working with her on this.

In September we were able to go whale watching. That was an amazing experience. It was only about an hour from our house and we hope to this again. It is a seasonal activity.

I have joined a hiking group that goes out most Monday mornings. It is a group of people from all over the world and has been a cool experience. These are some windmills that you can see from our house. We were able to celebrate Costa Rica Independence Day. We also had to make a very tough decision about church. One of the pulls to us moving here was the relationship that our church back home has with the church here. It has been a great experience for us to get to know these precious people. Although, over the year we came to realize how hard it was to actually worship there. The language barrier was really difficult. I think when we went into it we thought we would learn Spanish much more quickly and that would make it easier for us but unfortunately we have not. We made lifelong friends there and plan on continuing that relationship but have decided to go to an English-speaking church closer to us. I have found myself in tears a couple of times because I had missed that connection.

The real kicker for me was the kids. They are the age now where we would really like for them to WANT to be baptized. I tried to force Benson to go to a youth event and he wanted to hide in a corner the whole time. Again, it has nothing to do with the congregation it’s totally us and our inability to communicate.

The new school year has brought new friends and strengthened old friendships. I have a new friend from California with two little girls that Blake Leigh and Sloane connected with instantly. And they even live in our neighborhood. Benson is still super sad about his friend from last year, Nolan, leaving but we’ve been very proud of him for making some new friendships this year with some new kids.

On another positive note we now have someone here helping clean the house two days a week. She speaks zero English so it’s bound to help us with our Spanish. Her name is Norma and she’s very sweet. She knows much more about taking care of a house like this than I do.

Overall, I would say things are going very well. I’m also happy to say that next month my parents are coming for Thanksgiving and then shortly after will be home again for Christmas. I just to end with a few pictures.

Thoughts…….

We recently were able to go back to The States for a month. It was a wonderful time and it was honestly kind of hard to come back here to Costa Rica. Mostly because we really enjoyed time with family. We got to spend a whole week on vacation with my parents and we stayed with Nathan’s parents the rest of the time. His grandfather passed away while we were there but we were so thankful to get to spend time with him before he passed.

One of the questions we get asked very often especially over the last month was “when are you coming back?” And “how much longer do you have in Costa Rica?” And the answer is we really don’t know. This used to frustrate me because I kind of always want to know what’s next but isn’t that kind of ridiculous?

From the time we are a little we always kind of know what’s next. After kindergarten, first grade. After high school is college and then we have to get real jobs. When we get married everyone wonders when we’ll have kids and so on…… We are in a unique position right now where we are really not sure what our next step is. But aren’t we all?? We are not promised tomorrow, or that promotion, or our good health. That’s why I feel like a relationship with God is so important. I do pray that we are learning things that we need to know now for our next experience and I do kind of have an idea of what I want that next experience to be but never in 1 million years would I have expected that I would be moving to Costa Rica if you had asked me a few years ago so I have to have an open mind of what is next.

I have decided to enjoy this time of living in the moment and not having to worry about what is next because when that time comes it will be stressful trying to decide where we will live and where the kids will go to school and what I will do for work. For now I’m going to enjoy taking my kids to a school that they love and having lunch and coffee with friends that I adore.

I’m extremely thankful that I have made close friends here and with the start of a new school year I’m looking forward to making new friends. This year we were asked to help with a buddy family system here at school. I have already made a new friend and looking forward to helping her transition to this country. I know how much my buddy family friend, Mariana, helped us gets settled and I now consider her a close friend.

So no, we don’t know how long will be here or what the next step is but I pray for patience for myself through this process and hope that I can enjoy the time that we have here now.

A Visit From Grandpa and Nana

On June 12, Grandpa and Nana came to visit us. There was a little change of plans with Sloane getting hurt. We were supposed to leave for The States on June 14 but since we couldn’t, they came to see us. We were able to do a lot of fun things and show them around our new country. This was Mr. Dave’s first time here and Mrs. Nancy’s second time.

The first day they were here they got to see the kids at their last day of school and we went to a very cool restaurant with a beautiful view called Mirador Tiquicia.

The next day we visited the Starbucks coffee plantation and did a tour. We also went to our favorite place to take visitors, La Paz, waterfall gardens. that Saturday, Benson, Nathan, Mr. Dave and I did a hike called tres Cruces. It was a fairly difficult hike with no signs. You have to figure it out on your own. There are three crosses along the way that are completely unrelated to one another. Makes for a very fun hike. I have never made it to the third cross so that was the goal for the day! We did it! This is the view from the first cross. This is the view from the second cross. I cant believe I have no pictures of the second cross. It has actually fallen over and it easy to miss.

This is the third cross. You can see it at the top of a mountain near where Nathan works. Benson was worn out! This next picture was from when we got home. He said he couldn’t even walk. Sunday we celebrated Father’s Day at church and relaxed. Monday we got to go to the doctor with Sloane where he told her that she could start putting weight on her broken leg. We also got great news from the x-rays that it was healing on time. But the best news of all was that she could start taking her boot off to swim!!

After the doctors appointment we took off for the Irazu volcano and a “haunted” hospital that was once there to serve tuberculosis patients. We have passed it several times and wanted to visit and we finally did.Like A lot of times here… The weather decides on what you get to see or not. We did not get to see the volcano but the drive there was beautiful. They were able to witness the beautiful sunsets, crazy birds that wake you up at 4:45, lizards, geckos, and delicious Costa Rican food.The day before they left we got to spend the whole day at the pool. We even ordered pizza and stayed there through lunch. They loved having Grandpa tell them stories at night. This was something that he started doing when they were very young. He even, kind of, got used to having Blue around. They were able to hear Benson play his new trumpet, A LOT! When it came time to say goodbye, it wasn’t so bad because we knew we would see them soon when we visit in July. We love you Grandpa and Nana. Thanks for coming to see us. See you in a few weeks!

Recipes

I have had a few people ask me for some Costa Rica recipes so here we go.  I am one of these people who take about 3 different recipes and make them my own.
The first thing I learned how to make in Costa Rica was Gallo Pinto.  (You can’t translate this literally because it means spotted rooster.) Gallo Pinto is something that most Ticos (Costa Ricans) have every morning for breakfast.  It is great with scrambled eggs and fruit.  It took me several tries and failed attempts to get it right.  And I’ll warn you that it is kind of a labor of love kind of recipe.

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Gallo Pinto

Here’s what you will need:

Olive oil

1 chopped onion

1 chopped red pepper

7 or so cloves of freshly minced garlic

cooked and drained beans (more information about this later)

Rice cooked in bean juice

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1 bunch chopped Cilantro

*Disclaimer

So, If you are wanting to eat Gallo Pinto for breakfast on Friday, you will need to start this process on Wednesday.  Sorry about that, but like I said, it is a labor of love kind of recipe.

Directions:

Soak about a pound of dry beans over night in the fridge in water.  You can use red beans or black beans.

The next day rinse the beans really well and cover with water.  I place 2 garlic cloves in the water for extra flavor.  Cook the beans as directed but leave them a little firm. Drain the juice and put in a container to cook the rice in tomorrow.  Put the cooked beans and the juice in the fridge.

Later that day or the next day cook the rice as directed in the juice from the beans.  I use about a 1 to 1 1/2 ratio so a little less water than usually recommended, so If I have 3 cups of liquid I use 1 1/2 cups of rice.  You also want the rice to be kind of firm so don’t overcook. I cheat and use a rice cooker in the microwave. After it cools place in the fridge.  *Tip: If you are making a rice dish (gallo pinto, fried rice), it is much easier to work with cold rice.  So I refrigerate overnight.

And finally, the best part….putting it all together. First put your oil in the bottom of the large pot.  Im not good at measuring but enough to fill the bottom.  Let it get pretty hot and then add the chopped onion and red pepper.

When the onion starts to get clear add the minced garlic.  Let that cook until it is fragrant.

Add the lizano sauce and stir……I am afraid to tell you that I think that this might just be a Costa Rica thing..:( I have heard that you can sub in Worcestershire sauce but I haven’t tried it.  I also know that you can find it on amazon;) It is basically Costa Rica ketchup.  We put it on everything.

Add the cooked beans and stir.

Add the rice and stir until everything comes together.

At this point feel free to add salt to your taste.

The final step is adding the chopped cilantro and stir.

At this point you will be able to tell if you cooked the beans and the rice correctly.  I have mede it before and it was overcooked so it looked like a big bowl of oatmeal….and I have also undercooked it and it was too hard to eat.

Now I will tell you the best way to serve it…..

This recipe should give your family at least 2 mornings of Gallo Pinto, so I just leave it in the original pan and in the mornings heat up a large skillet with oil and let it get really hot, then add enough gallo pinto for your family and saute. It makes it taste fresh each time you reheat.

I hope you enjoy and message me if you have any troubleshooting questions!

Ground Beef Picadillob990fab4-7de7-4869-bb21-a471c7791392

Picadillo comes from a the spanish verb picar, which means “to chop.”

This recipe is very versatile.  It can be used just as a main course, a filling for tacos or empanadas, and you can also make it vegetarian by replacing the beef with more veggies. The first time the kids and I had this we were at church and I immediately had to ask the woman who made it for her recipe.  This is what she gave me…..

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So, I took that and with the help of a friend made up my own recipe.

What you will need:

2 tablespoons oil

1 pound ground beef

1 chopped onion

1  chopped red pepper

3 cloves of freshly minced garlic

2 teaspoons of dried oregano

1 tablespoon of achiote (pictured below)

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4 chayotes minced (I honestly don’y know if you can even get these in The States but potatoes work really well too) Here is what they look like.  I think they are in the squash family

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1 tablespoon ground cumin

1 teaspoon salt

2 tablespoons lizano sauce (pictured in previous recipe)or Worcestershire sauce

1 cup beef broth (I have also used chicken broth in a pinch and it was fine)

1 bunch of chopped cilantro (you done have to use this.  I know some crazy people are not fans, but in my opinion it is what makes it so yummy!)

corn or flour tortilias, rice if desired

Directions:

Saute onion in hot oil

add the beef, red pepper, garlic, and oregano and continue to cook until the beef is browned

add the chayote and broth and bring to a boil for 5 minutes

season with the anchiote, cumin, salt and lizano sauce.

cover and bring to a boil again.

cook over medium heat for about 2 min or until the chayote or potato is tender.

add the cilantro and combine

serve on tortilias, alone or on rice

ENJOY!!!

Stepping out of my bubble

It has taken me too long to write this post but I had a lot of thoughts running through my head and wanted to try to organize them as much as I possibly could. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I am not a writer but I do like to document big moments in our lives.

A week ago Saturday we celebrated one year living in Costa Rica. We celebrated by each painting a rock that symbolizes how we feel about our first year. This idea was taken from Joshua where the Israelites set up stones to one day explain to their children and their grandchildren why they were set up. We placed them in our random rock corner of our house. We looked through pictures and talked about the highs and lows of the year.

I would say a year and about three months ago I started taking tiny steps outside the bubble that I’ve been in most of my life. When I say bubble, I don’t mean that necessary in a negative way it’s just all that I knew. My mom even said when I went to college that she felt like Searcy was kind of an extension of the bubble that I was already living in. I would not change anything about the way I was raised. I was taught how to be a good person. How to be kind to others and put God first in my life.

I use that term “bubble” because I have not gotten out of my comfort zone very much. I’ve made a few moves in my life… Paragould, Arkansas to Searcy, Arkansas. Then on to Little Rock after college and then to Memphis, Which is where I would consider my home. That’s where my children have lived most of their lives and where I started to kind of figure out my purpose.

When I look at my life…I observe that I have worked with children. I’ve worked in restaurants. I’ve done hair and now I am working with children again. I’ve only lived in the southern part of United States and visiting Costa Rica in 2016 was first time I’ve ever even left the country. Costa Rica is still the only other country I’ve been to. I have never liked change, except for when it comes to my hair 🙂 and I have pushed against it as much as possible. I think that is one thing about me that drives Nathan crazy. But when the decision came to move to Costa Rica I surprisingly jumped in without hesitation.

I think I’ve said this before but I was just needing some change from the cycle of being too busy, feeling frustrated and juggling everything but not feeling like I’m really doing anything with purpose. I think we all fall into that trap of being “busy” and feeling like our children have to be involved in everything but feeling like we are on a hamster wheel. I don’t think it’s worth it. I will have several disagree with me on that one but our lives have calmed down for the better and I’m very thankful.

Since moving to Costa Rica I’ve had a lot of time, sometimes too much, to reflect on what is important for us to be doing as a family. Service, is I think number one. And we could always do more of that and number two, I think, is just spending time together. I don’t think we would ever regret that we spent too much time together as a family. And by time, I mean simple stuff like playing games and going for walks. Exploring this beautiful country that we get to live in.

As my kids get older they want to spend more time on devices and while that is easy, I think we need to be much more purposeful to interact with one another. Right now school is wrapping up and our children are having a hard time saying goodbye to their friends. Some just for the summer and others they do not know when they will ever see them again. They are moving to other parts of the world. Costa Rica is a very transitional place and people come and go every couple of years. I think this is a good lesson for our children to learn now while they’re young. Learning to have to stay in touch with friends is a good lesson.

I would say that all of our minds have been opened over the last year. I think most of us went into this very anxious and afraid that we would not find close friends and not find a real purpose and I think we would all say that we are adjusting well. Benson has learned that he really enjoys playing the trumpet and is very dedicated to practicing. He’s formed a very close bond with his band teacher and looks up to him. Andi Sloane has found that she has got some very sweet friends that are loyal and helpful and her time of need. Blake has found that she loves playing soccer and has discovered a love for writing stories and reading. Nathan is really loving his coworkers and seems to really be thriving at work. And I feel like I’ve grown up so much over the last year. I’ve had to do a lot of my own which, to be honest, at the time I resented, but now I feel like it has really helped me. I really love teaching at the school and look forward to doing it again next year.

I’ve had several people ask me about how our Spanish is coming and I am sad to say that it’s slow…..I think the only way we are going to really learn Spanish and feel comfortable speaking is to be more immersed in it.  We are understanding more and more and that is encouraging. The kids and I are planning on doing a camp in a few weeks here in Costa Rica where will be fully immersed for the week.

We have made some really wonderful friends here too. From our church family to my “buddy family” friend from school that helped us get settled and help me out of my funk last summer to my Costa Rican friend, Diana, who by the way is still my friend even though I said her name wrong for the first six months of our friendship🤣 We meet with every other week for lunch, unless stuff comes up 🙂 to my sweet friend Ana, who also has precious children that my children have gotten close to. We’ve also made very good friends with our children’s friends parents. My friend, Sylvia, who has helped me in more ways than I can express and of course the teachers at the kids school. We have been very blessed.

In the next couple of months we will have family visiting from the states and we will also get to go home for some time and we will look forward to that so much. Even though we are really enjoying our time here we miss our family and friends terribly back home. We have really grown to appreciate those special people from home.

To end this post I want to keep it on the light side by listing some things that I’ve gotten used to here in Costa Rica, things that I’m starting to get used to in Costa Rica and lastly things I don’t think I will never get used to here in Costa Rica.

Things I’ve gotten used to:

Nothing being easy or clear-cut, groceries being very expensive, wonderful food, traffic, rain, communicating through WhatsApp, someone always being willing to help

Things I’m starting to get used to:

The humidity, the heat in my house, the bugs, cleaning the floors every day, communicating through Google translate, nothing being on time, having to pay to park almost everywhere, turnabouts at intersections instead of stoplights

Things I don’t think I’ll ever get used to: the way people drive, no parking, parking on the street, being afraid they’ll take my license plates for not parking correctly.

Do you see a theme here? I would say the most stressful thing that we deal with is driving and parking!

I’m sure there are a lot more things that fall into these categories. Thank you to those who have prayed for us and please continue the prayers. We look forward to seeing many of you over the summer.

One Whole Year

Today we celebrated our 1 year living in Costa Rica anniversary. I will have a post later with lots of rambling thoughts but for tonight I just have this to share. From the Bible…Joshua 4 Tonight we each painted a stone that we someday will talk with our children and their children about.